random thoughts at idle

[balaa]

James is doing his thing tonight so im doin mine and having some fun with my art.

In latest news I am really trying to start moving on the Kalahari Studios idea. Thankfully I have a grand pair of coconspirators, Nanook123 and Hibbary. Currently Im working on coloring a sketch she did of what so far is just called the Kalahari Cat. Girl you blow me away with your talent...if all goes well it may be done tonight.

Other than that I have been thinking at random about my friends and who they are. I have never been known to have that many friends in life..though recently I have started to make some new friendships. I find, however, that the word 'friend' is over used and abused. I wonder sometimes if we really know anymore, the true meaning of that word.

so here are a few random thoughts on friendship and what it means to me.

This is what makes a person a friend to me:
1. a person that first and foremost thinks for themselves and doesn't just blindly nod to everything I say
2. A person that is willing to stand up and say that they don't agree with me. I respect that in a person, we are not all carbon copies and cannot be expected to have all the same beliefs..be it religion..politics or what have you.
3. A person that knows when to say a word of encouragement to me or someone else who needs it.
4. A person that is willing to tell me when I am being paranoid or seeing things that arent there.
5. Someone that tries to look on the positive in life and as such helps carry me through with their smiles. Id much rather be around someone that tries to find the good in things rather than the negative...though naturally we all have our down times...Im referring more to the majority.
6. A person that shares their heart and mind. I respect a person that is secure enough in themselves to share their ideas/beliefs what have you.
7. A person that doesn't let people give up.
8. A person that helps their fellow man up when they are down, putting aside any grudges of the past to help even the person they consider their enemy. This takes a big person.
9. A person that is the bigger person in a fight and knows when losing a friendship is not worth winning a squabble. Thats not to say you dont stand up for yourself...but rather know when nothing good will come of the fight. Ive fought with people over religion and nearly lost friends over it, good friends...but I knew in the end...we could still be friends and be ourselves as long as we kept certain topics out of the lime light. And because of it, I think we grew as people and friends.
10. simply....a person that goes out of their way to make someone smile.

In all the people I consider my friends, I find these traits pop up over and over. To each person friendship has different parameters..these are just some of mine.

*luff to all*

Comments

[mango-nikki.livejournal.com]

nice traits :) that kinda thing always is hard to try to put into words ^_^

[dark-jaguar01.livejournal.com]

I have not had the privilege to know anything about that idea yet, but it sounds like you are having a great time with it. Anything that is fun to you is a good thing. So good luck with it. XD

I am just to lazy to read those right now, sorry. lol I did notice one though when I scrolled down to type this. Number 10 is the only one I know of that I fit to the letter. As for the rest, I am myself and if some of those do not fit, then that is not who I am. ;) But then again it is not my place to say if I am any of those. So I would rather not read them. To tell the truth though, I do not think it is a good idea to put such a list. Cuz now you will get more deceivers trying to fit that list. lol

Anyways, I hope you are doing well and sorry for the long post. ^_^

[celty.livejournal.com]

You forgot one. ARR.

11. You must have green hair and be a one legged, one eyed, floof loving pirate with a birth mark shaped like Saturn.

Celty needs sleep :D

[kumanor.livejournal.com]

for me friend is the one I can trust. If the world hits me hard, I know there are those who I can trust, my friends. All things above are also important though. But usually I don't list qualities of good friend. It's enough that I enjoy to be with him/her and he/she won't let me down.

[teh-scotty.livejournal.com]

I like the last one.

I like kumanor base my friendships on trust. If there's no trust or the trust is lost I find it very hard to have a friendship. I've been backstabbed and burned my paws with friends in the past and now I am much more careful with whom I choose to trust.

With online friends I find it easier as there are the trivias of everyday life to get in the way, everyone is different but share the same interests if you know what I mean? I enjoy talking to you Balaa as not only are you an inspiration but I think you are a genuinely nice person and even though most of our comments and chit chat is random crap I enjoy it and it makes me smile :)

Best of luck with the Kalahari Studios idea. <3

[scullyiza.livejournal.com]

I wanna be a conspirator too :3 ::snugs::

[nanook123.livejournal.com]

Every body vants to be in on the conspiracy...*vannabe russian accent* Vell, joo musht be very very quviet. The secrets ve vill speak of...so potent that they could possibly make your ears bleed.

Just kidding.

We could do some heavy conspiring this weekend Balaalalaalalaaaa love :D

[bi-ancha.livejournal.com]

i hope you have fun balaa *is doing her thing*
i'm drawing again, somuch work to do EEEEEK!

[autumn-sunrise.livejournal.com]

Very good traits for friends! And I agree with all of them.

And of course friendship, like others said, is greatly based on trust...and trust often leads to the traits you mentioned, Balaa. True friends are there when you need them, but are willing to tell you the things that might even hurt you because they know it is for your own good. True friends look out for you. :)

And I look forward to seeing Kalahari Studios as it becomes a reality! *tailwags*

[basil-lion.livejournal.com]

Usually I don't criticize artists cause... welll... i'm not that great at art myself. But now... oh, now... now I'll be honest at what's bad at your art, so beware ROTFLOL. XD Where's my pen. Hey! I'll draw you an awful sketch :P

I might be excommunicated for dat, but still agree on most of the points... :P The day before I was writing the same message at my LJ, but it failed... and i wus too lazy to type allof dat once again.

I wonder if we all still understand the meaning of "friendship" nowadays. Cause... one of the people I considered friends told me "i wont come to your BD cause you know, we arent that much of a friends after all..." Blah. "i have my friends, you have yours... dont wanna mix" I dunno if I mistake all af this for something, but this person is really my friend or it's just me confusing friendship with acquaintenship?

I feel stupid.

[rtdn.livejournal.com]

\m/

i said fuck yeeeeaaaah!

[joosephine.livejournal.com]

I think it is really nice that you have written this down. A lot of people would need to realize this, even if it is not solely regarding their friends.
I cannot more than agree with you, I think those points really make the statement clear.

It must be really hard, especially for someone like you who get a lot of attention everyday, where and when a true friend emerges out of the crowd.

[jl-anderson.livejournal.com]

Good luck with the studio! It's great that you can pull together with your friends to form something great. I look forward to seeing what you all create. ^_^

[bagheera.livejournal.com]

*Smiles and pounces your tail* :3

[dapplet.livejournal.com]

I would love to help you guys with Kalahari, though I don't know how much I could help you guys. ^^;

It's hard to put friendship into words! There are so many different aspects of it, on some ways... and in others, it only means one thing. It's difficult to explain. xD

*snugforeverandeverandeverbalaafloofs*

[fyregryphoness.livejournal.com]

All those reasons that you listed reminds me of my and my cousin. :) We're quite different on many levels. She's more liberal in thinking, where as I'm more conservative. She tends to have different views on religion and morality than I do. She's messier in her housekeeping where as I...oh wait. Nevermind. We're exactly the same on that issue. XD lol.

Anyway, even though we have a lot of differences, we're still best friends. :) Of course, we do share many commonalities as well. Such as, loving board games, nature walks, Peeps marshmallows (for sure!), etc.

What's really sad to see are people who believe that someone can ONLY be their friend if they share exactly everything in common. I've seen these sort of people before...and I can only assume they probably don't have too many friends. ;)

Diversity is good, yo! Word. =3

[wursu.livejournal.com]

and perhaps;

11. A person who likes me for the one I really am. If I have to be 'cool', 'fashion', act in the 'cool' way and wear the 'cool' clothes to make somebody like me, they're not real friends.

Me neither has never been surruonded with billions of friends. I've one real, true friend - and she really is a TRUE friend. That's all I need :)
<3

[ex-mearu257.livejournal.com]

*sits down crosslegged before you* been awhile chica, I seem to be missing your online times....

[ty-parsec.livejournal.com]

I agree with you wholeheartedly on the traits that denote a friend. They're very true. Besides, I'd hate to say anything about anyone - or their art - without being honest. I mean exactly what I say, especially when it comes to compliments. I'd hate to tell someone their art looks awesome, if it looks like their dog painted it. It really wouldn't be right.

BTW, I like #10. That sounds like me. In fact, making other people smile usually makes me feel better, especially if I'm having a bad day. ^_^

*huggles* Saw the Kalahari Cat, BTW. Lovely work. *makes mental note to leave a better comment on DA later ^^*